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DEFEATING DEPRESSION PART 4 Depression- from Webster’s New Unabridged Dictionary
Disappointment and Depression “Hope deferred makes the heart sick” Proverbs 13:12 One of the major causes for depression is deep disappointment, the Word of God calls it- “hope deferred”, in other words a certain hope that never becomes a reality or that delays in materializing. Depression is exactly the opposite of expectation. In most cases depression is accompanied by a sense of hopelessness or “what’s the use”. This feeling is normally based on experience, for example: “I have been praying for 18 years for my family to be saved and have seen no answered prayer” or “my husband has promised me thousands of times that he will change but he never does” or “God promised me through a prophetic word that I will do great things for Him but I am still working as a simple clerk”, “I believe that by His stripes I am healed and yet my physical condition is not improved”, “I was hoping to have a great family life and my marriage ended in divorce”, “I have done my best to reconcile with my parents and yet they still reject me”, etc… These are some of the many complaints of someone that has been deeply disillusioned by God, people and life. When the disappointment goes deep enough, it causes a feeling of deep hurt, bitterness and then despondency; the attitude will be of great mistrust in YAH {God}, His Word and people. There is a point where there are no more expectations of life and thoughts of death begin to plague your mind, some people even contemplate suicide and all this is caused by DISAPPOINTMENT. You expected something to happen that: A} did not happen and will never happen B} did not happen in your time frame and you believe therefore that it will never happen Your mind then decides to either cope with this reality in a positive way or to quit expecting anything at all. When it decides to quit- this is DEPRESSION and it can be dangerous. Disappointments, Disappointments, Disappointments
A disappointment is like walking through a dead end street. You expected to find an exit and you can’t go on lest you TURN AROUND AND FIND ANOTHER WAY. Disappointment from people Since we are all imperfect humans, we will all disappoint someone at some time. So, we need to take into consideration that as much as people have disappointed us, we most probably have disappointed some people. In that sense we are all in the same boat! However it is necessary to process and to acknowledge the disappointment, the broken promise that have caused your heart to become sick. If you went through a divorce, there is a broken promise there, if your father or mother committed suicide, they have broken their promises to you, if they abandoned and rejected you, it is the same. Then disappointment and mistrust will set in. Important exercise: Write down a list of all those that have disappointed you, broken their promises or broken your trust. Acknowledge your pain first and even mourn for the lost relationship. Then go ahead and forgive and begin your healing process! Forgiveness Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” Y’shua said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven. Matthew 18:21,22
Also He spoke this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous, and despised others: “Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, ‘God, I thank You that I am not like other men—extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this tax collector. I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I possess.’ And the tax collector, standing afar off, would not so much as raise his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, ‘God, be merciful to me a sinner!’ I tell you, this man went down to his house justified rather than the other; for everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.” Luke 18:9-14 Disappointment in yourself If you are disappointed in yourself, you need to process it, acknowledge it and forgive yourself. Important Exercise: Write down a list of all the people that you have disappointed, including yourself and God. Write down all the promises that you have broken to yourself and to others. Go ahead and REPENT by,
A} Asking God’s forgiveness B} Asking people to forgive you C} Making a new commitment for change Do not ever be afraid to TRY AGAIN. only found the formula for electricity after trying 10.000 times and failing. He never gave up and he did not see the 10.000 futile attempts as failure but as “10.000 ways how not to do it!”, finally due to his tenacious perseverance, he succeeded and due to that we enjoy electricity today!!! Had it not been for his positive attitude you could not use a computer, or read by a night light, there would be no high tech to speak about. Just imagine how much your life depends on electricity! So, yes maybe you are not going to succeed right away but NEVER quit trying! FORGIVE YOURSELF AND TRY AGAIN, NEVER STOP TRYING UNTIL YOUR LAST BREATH! LIFE IS WORTH LIVING TO THE FULLEST EVEN IF THERE ARE MANY OBSTACLES! The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly. John 10:10 Disappointment in God For the vision is yet for an appointed time. But at the end it will speak, and it will not lie. Though it tarries, wait for it; Because it will surely come. It will not tarry. “Behold the proud, His soul is not upright in him; But the just shall live by his faith. Habakkuk 2:3,4 Many, many people are angry and disappointed with The Almighty. The reasons for this are: A} Expecting the Almighty to do things our way B} Expecting Him to do it in our time frame Both of them are called PRESUMPTION Surely you have things turned around! Shall the potter be esteemed as the clay; For shall the thing made say of him who made it, “He did not make me”? Or shall the thing formed say of him who formed it, “He has no understanding”? Isaiah 29:16 Presumption is rooted in pride and in our own interpretation of Elohim-God and of His Word and Ways. We need to separate between the written Word of YAHVEH and His revealed Word. When He speaks a Word to you in your innermost being and even confirms it through a prophecy, then you can stand on it and believe for it, obey His instructions and wait UNTIL it comes to pass. Take into consideration that waiting on this word will test your patience and perseverance and it will most likely not come to pass when you expect it. It will probably come as a “suddenly” when you least expect it! His written Word gives us many promises and most of them are conditional, in most cases you will see the word IF.
In other words, you cannot expect them to come to pass unless you fulfill His requirements, and even when you do {at least in your own eyes}, it will still happen in God’s timing and not yours! If you do not understand these principles early in your walk with YAH {God} through Y’shua, you will have built up frustration, anger, disappointment and mistrust in Him and eventually you will also suffer from some type of depression. This is the dead end street I had mentioned before; it really leads NOWHERE, so the only option is to TURN and to find ANOTHER WAY. This other way is the way of humility and trust Important exercise: Write down in what manner has YAH {God} disappointed or frustrated you. Forgive Him, ask His forgiveness for your pride, presumption or mistrust, forgive yourself, forgive others and begin a new lifestyle! “God is not a man, that He should lie, Nor a son of man, that He should repent. Has He said, and will He not do? Or has He spoken, and will He not make it good? Numbers 23:19 Word Medication: Write down for yourself a WORD PRAYER about the faithfulness of God of at least five scriptures and declare them day and night until they become part of you! The prophet Habakkuk knew the secret of trusting Elohim at all times, even during the painful time of banishment and exile, Though the fig tree may not blossom, Nor fruit be on the vines; Though the labor of the olive may fail, And the fields yield no food; Though the flock may be cut off from the fold, And there be no herd in the stalls— Yet I will rejoice in Yahweh, I will joy in the God of my salvation. Yahweh God is my strength; He will make my feet like deer’s feet, And He will make me walk on my high hills. To the Chief Musician. With my stringed instruments. Habakkuk 3:17-19 When you choose the way of trust, though you may not see anything encouraging with your natural eye, you will enjoy His strength and His joy!
As you choose to trust your Father in Heaven against all odds, you keep persevering, forgiving and loving you will never fail and depression will flee! Trusting Elohim unconditionally is closely linked with the Fear of God. When we fear Him, we will not consider breaking His commandments as an option and we will know that we cannot exercise manipulation to make Him act, however true faith and even desperate faith and trust will move Him. A person that fears YAHVEH can also trust Him FULLY, thus he can walk completely WHOLE in the midst of all circumstances! “For you who fear My name the sun of righteousness will rise with healing in his wings” Malachi 4:20 May His healing break forth speedily for you as you apply these instructions! We love you and care for you Your friends in Israel Bishop Dominiquae and Rabbi Baruch Bierman © Bishop Dr Dominiquae Bierman 2006 - Permission is granted (and we encourage you) to distribute these writings. You may reprint in hard copy form, send to your e-mail lists and post them on your website. You must not alter any writings and you must keep all the author information on the writings, including the following: Kad-Esh MAP Ministries, www.kad-esh.org. This copyright notice must also remain. For all other permissions and enquires including publishing, please contact karenmap@netvision.net.il Web Hosting by Messianic Web Hosting, Israel |
